Don't Ask, Don't Tell

For 40 years, the Episcopal Church of Texas turned a blind eye to a priest who was sexually molesting male students.

In 1993, Bob Haslanger received a letter from his high school alma mater, St. Stephen's Episcopal School in Austin. It seemed that Haslanger, who was living in Seattle, had been designated a "never-giver," which, as the label suggests, is a category of alumni who have never donated to the school. Why was this, the school wanted to know.

Although the diocese states that Tucker (pictured circa 1968) abused boys at St. Stephen's in Austin, and possibly St. James in Houston, he has never been charged criminally.
Courtesy David Evert
Although the diocese states that Tucker (pictured circa 1968) abused boys at St. Stephen's in Austin, and possibly St. James in Houston, he has never been charged criminally.
As school chaplain, Tucker was an important part of graduation ceremonies, such as this one from 1968.
Courtesy David Evert
As school chaplain, Tucker was an important part of graduation ceremonies, such as this one from 1968.

"I wrote them back a letter and said, 'Is this a bullshit letter or is this something that you're actually interested in?'" Haslanger says, 16 years later. "Because if you're actually interested in why I'm a never-giver, I will tell you.'"

So, Haslanger says, he flew to Austin and sat down with an administrator named Jim Woodruff. Haslanger proceeded to give what he felt was an understandable explanation for his unopened pocketbook: Between the years 1964-1968, when he attended St. Stephen's, a faculty member came into his dorm room about once a month, after lights-out, and molested him. Haslanger told Woodruff that he told the school's headmaster about that person, and the headmaster called him a liar. Now, according to Haslanger's account, here's where it got weird.

"I became too emotional to say anything when he asked me who had molested me," Haslanger says from Seattle, where he still lives. "And he asked me — he asked me — 'Was it Jim Tucker?' I didn't provide Jim Tucker's name. He provided Jim Tucker's name."

It blew Haslanger away that Woodruff would immediately bring up the name of the school's wildly popular chaplain, the Reverend James Lydell Tucker.

Haslanger says he asked Woodruff if he was the only one who had ever alleged such abuse. According to Haslanger, Woodruff said the school had no information on that matter.

"Well, how the hell did he know that Jim Tucker was the person I was talking about?" Haslanger says.

Still, Woodruff made a note of Haslanger's story and stuck it in his file. Haslanger flew home, figuring he'd explained fairly well why he was a never-giver. He didn't expect to hear from the school again.

But, of course, he did, about two years later. And this was the letter that sent him over the edge. This was the letter that would disturb him so much that he took a leave of absence from his six-figure job as chief operating officer of a manufacturing company, which wound up being a permanent leave. This was the letter that unraveled all the effort that had gone into kicking self-medication with drugs and drink, and wiped away all the help he had received in therapy: The school wanted Haslanger to contribute to a new scholarship in the Reverend Jim Tucker's name.

Before he started spiraling, Haslanger wrote letters to St. Stephen's and to the Episcopal Diocese of Texas, here in Houston.

"I wrote them a letter, and I said, 'That's a big mistake. You guys are going to get bit in the ass for starting a scholarship in Jim Tucker's name,'" Haslanger says.

This warning was summarily ignored. A single accusation of child molestation was not going to gum up the gears of the fund-raising machine.

But about ten years later, another accusation surfaced. And another. And then another, this one from the Episcopal church and school in Houston where Tucker worked after St. Stephen's.

That's when the Episcopal Diocese of Texas went back and looked at Woodruff's notes from his 1993 talk with Haslanger. And that's when diocesan officials figured they had a problem on their hands: It looked like, for the past 40 years, a series of diocesan and school authorities had conspired to cover up allegations of sexual abuse. Now the school and diocese are facing a $45 million lawsuit for that cover-up. And now, say Haslanger and the other two plaintiffs, the diocese is abusing them all over again.
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Although the area is now fairly well developed, when St. Stephen's opened its doors in west Austin in 1950, it was fairly isolated.

"The school site eight miles from Austin was chosen because of its proximity to the University of Texas and the seat of state government, as well as its remoteness from the corruption of city life," according to the school's Web site. "A look at vintage photos reveals the wilderness quality of the sparsely populated Hill Country location in the early years. When the founders purchased the 400-acre tract, they took on the daily struggle of living in a no-frills rural setting. Their neighbors were goats, cattle and a variety of critters. Water was pumped from a 1,017-foot well. The only telephone was a mobile unit in an old car. When incoming calls caused the horn to honk, someone had to go outside to the car to answer."

When the three plaintiffs in the lawsuit came to St. Stephen's in the mid-to-late '60s, the area hadn't changed much. You could walk for a mile before you bumped into a farmhouse. Once or twice a week, students could catch a ride with a faculty member, or maybe take a school bus, to town. Being out in the sticks reinforced the sense of family. And for many students, there was no more beloved family member than the school's chaplain, the Reverend James Lydell Tucker.

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  • Canon Francisco Zanger 08/24/2010 4:27:00 AM

    This story is at least thrice tragic and once ironic-- tragic for the boys who were molested by the adult whose job it was, as chaplain, to represent God's love to them, and abused by the headmaster who called one a liar and hushed up the case, allowing other children to be molested, and by the Diocese, for first its cover-up and then its hypocrisy in expressing its profound sorrow and dismay while simultaneously 'lawyering-up; tragic for those at the parish that the headmaster and diocese allowed to be molested rather than face the embarrassment of having a child-molesting priest arrested; and tragic for every member of the Diocese, who must now look at their ordained leadership and wonder what else may have been covered up, perhaps by their own priest, and to know that their bishop may mouth pious platitudes but would sooner pay lawyers than psychotherapists for the damage his priests have done. And the irony? Father Tucker was married, with children. How long can we continue pointing our fingers at the Roman Catholics, saying that if it wasn't for their unnatural celibacy rules they wouldn't have child molesters in their ranks?

  • mark lanham 12/18/2009 7:29:00 AM

    I was molested by the friend of Episcopal priest Rev. John Arthur Thompson in the summer of 1976. I soon fell into drinking, drugs and petty theft/vandalism. I was told by my mother to go to the beach with this man and that I was ordered to do so by her boyfriend, the married priest. The man would lead me out into the surf, even though I told him I couldn't swim. I thought my mom and her sick boyfriend had told this guy to knock me off by having me "drown" so I would be out of the way. I had alerted the priest's daughters that he and my mom were having an affair. Thirty five years later I am on SSI for anxiety disorder with depression. I am black-listed by attorneys and have to constantly deal with PIs harrassing and following me and my family since I began going public. Yes. I know EXACTLY what you mean by cover-up.

  • Ana 06/22/2009 11:03:00 PM

    I believe the three men in this story....completely. Shame on the church for their abuse of these boys, on top of the molestation they had already suffered! Shame on those who are still trying to make them look like liars, far after the time when the church itself admitted they were teling the truth! As a Christian, I take great comfort in knowing the b*sturds in this story will have to face God and answer for their actions!

  • Jamison 06/21/2009 7:00:00 PM

    It strikes me as funny when those who are religious and believe in god ask for more evidence about anything, while taking on faith that there's a guy up there who hears prayers and actually cares what we do, and metes out punishments even after we die. If evidence is important then please stop your blind faith.

  • anon 13 06/20/2009 6:01:00 AM

    Mr. Malisow, There is no evident fact-checking. Then you provide one side of the story in a $45 million lawsuit. During the article, you drag the families of Bishops Wimberley and Doyle into your piece of trash journalism. This comment says nothing of Tucker's guilt, the responsibility of the Episcopal Diocese, or the proper outcome of the lawsuit. My only intention is to highlight the shabbiness of what you probably think is cheeky and clever journalism. People like you shame the field of journalism.

  • Anon 06/13/2009 5:13:00 PM

    When a party is sued for $45 million, depositions are taken to gather evidence in support of or in defense of the damages sought, and hopefully in pursuit of settlement. Depositions are not taken to upset the person seeking the $45 million. It's litigation. These types of cases are not different. I didn't think you had to be a lawyer to know this.

  • SSS Grad 06/05/2009 5:16:00 PM

    I understand the story and the points you make. Jim Tucker is an 80-something retiree and clearly doesn't have the financial wherewithall to hire $700/hour attorneys to defend him. I lived in those dorms. Walked and talked and went to class with those people. As I said, there may be some elements of truth but the story has gotten progressively wilder as the $$$ in question have gotten progressively bigger. It's not unlikely the actual truth lies somewhere in the middle of all this. For example, your story doesn't address allegations of heavy drug use of one accuser ... prior to even attending St. Stephen's. Like I said ... a sad, sad story with no winners. I don't come here to proclaim Jim Tucker as a saint or even innocent. I do proclaim that Jim Tucker saved as many lives as he those he damaged. My sole purpose is to provide some balance to a man who's life was not solely based on these evil actions.

  • Craig Malisow 06/05/2009 3:23:00 PM

    SSS Grad -- thank you for taking the time to post a comment. I believe I need to reiterate a few key points: 1.) The diocese has not disputed the allegations. In fact, it has apologized. The diocese hired Praesidium, a third party, to conduct an investigation. Based on those results, the diocese held an ecclesiastical trial and had Tucker laicized. 2.) In 2007, Allen Becker issued a formal apology, which stated in part, "I should have responded differently." 3.) The diocese is not disputing the allegations in court. Its defense is not "it didn't happen," but that the diocese (and the named individuals) are not legally culpable for Tucker's actions. 4.) Jim Tucker has not publicly denied the allegations. Thanks, Craig

  • SSS Grad 06/05/2009 4:15:00 AM

    If you don't believe in God, you had better be right. Religion is a structure that is only supposed to make it easier to have a relationship with God. You don't have to have a religion to have a relationship. As far as truth goes, one man's truth is another man's fallacy. If it were only that simple.

  • jim george 06/04/2009 5:28:00 AM

    I attende SSS from 61-64. I knew Jim Tucker. I spent time at his house my senior year although not as much as a lot of my classmates. I only remember one time he talked to me one on one. It was a short conversation where we talked about our fathers. He told me his father was alienated because he became a priest. It sounded strange to me but I was just 17 or 18. Everyone liked Jim Tucker. I never heard any bad stuff at all. I must say that I am now an agnostic, because I have no faith that a God exists. As far as Im concerned all the pedophiles that lurk in the disguise of religion should all be taken out and shot. I hope religion ceases to exist on this earth in the future. I believe it is the ruin of man. "Ye shall know the truth and the truth will make you free" Forget god forget religion. Know the truth..............................

  • SSS Grad 06/04/2009 1:32:00 AM

    As a classmate of Bob Haslanger's, I'm not sure what to believe. There may well be elements of truth in his allegations but Bob was a troubled youth from the first day I met him in 1964. He was a brilliant artist with a camera and his immersion into photography predated any of the events he now alleges. He was the editor of the 1968 yearbook and had total control ove the contents. Nearly every other page displays photographs of Jim Tucker, most of those being taken by Haslanger and all of them complimentary in construction. It seems to me to be a bit of a psychological contradiction to put one's alleged molester as the focal point of a publication controlled by the victim. It's no accident that money is the central point rather than outing an alleged molester and the associated personal cleansing from going public. I have to question both the validity of all the allegations and the motivation for pursuing it some 45 years later. Even assuming some arguable degree of validity to this story and the allegations contained therein, it would be a huge mistake to view Jim Tucker from this sole angle. Jim Tucker, and his entire family, was a source of comfort, consolation and concern for the vast majority of students in Tucker's decade at St. Stephen's. FWIW, I was on the student lounge committee and I never, ever even remotely saw or experienced anything untoward to any student of any gender or any age. Ever. Your story makes it sound like a hunting ground but Bob Haslanger, as one notable example related to this story, was never involved in any function of the student lounge. I apologize for tempering your titillating article with some inconvenient facts. To those who might have been personally affected by any actions of Jim Tucker of any kind, I deeply feel for your pain. I just could not in good conscience allow all the good things that Jim Tucker did go unmentioned even if it contradicts the story line. God bless all those involved. May His forgiveness be given to those who need it and ask for it. It's a sad story from start to finish.

  • The Rev. James Abernathey 05/25/2009 3:54:00 PM

    I'm floored and devastated. This is not the Jim Tucker I have known for 40 years and served with as a fellow priest in the diocese of Texas. He and I often disagreed on many things, but there was never the vaguest hint of anything like this. My heart breaks for all those affected -- and for all who looked up to Jim Tucker.

  • Anon2 05/23/2009 5:37:00 AM

    Hi, Jim.

  • anon 05/22/2009 12:24:00 AM

    This article is egregious slander.

 

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