Human Directionals

What are these "spinners" holding advertising signs at local intersections listening to?

People usually come to me for advice, but I am stumped as to what to do in this case. If you were in my shoes, how would you handle it?


Your biggest problem is not what you did but who you are. I'm not saying it's right, but people cheat all the time, forgive one another and move on. In your case, because you are a man of the cloth and your profession is rooted in preaching the importance of values and morals, you're held at a higher standard. Accordingly, you are expected to have zero tolerance for temptation.

James Minor says he has "very diverse tastes" in his choice of on-the-job listening.
Jesse Sendejas, Jr.
James Minor says he has "very diverse tastes" in his choice of on-the-job listening.

The way I see it, you have two viable options. You could take the player option, whereby you would go to the woman and say, "Look, although I enjoyed what happened between us, in the eyes of God, it was a mistake. You're a wonderful woman, but so is my wife. She doesn't deserve this and neither does your husband. The text messages and calls have to stop. I'm sorry and I hope we can continue to share the same church home." Reference God, sin and obedience whenever possible.

If she doesn't respond favorably, you may have to put your big-boy pants on and switch to option two, which would require you to man up and confess to your wife. Lay out all the details, throw up a Hail Mary and hope like hell she forgives you. This is risky, but not as risky as allowing the crazy woman to tell her side of the story first or you lying about it, because chances are she has evidence of the affair stored somewhere.

Now touch your neighbor and say, "It ain't worth it! I keep looking over my shoulder and peeping 'round corners — Hallelujah!"

Willie D.

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