Dear Willie D:
I actually do not know who I could speak to about this topic, but you seem the most likely person to get what I am saying. I know this is random from a random fan, but I feel [like] the Vegas shooting was a distraction — a complete distraction to the point that we don't talk about the greatest mass shooting in U.S. history like we should:
The names of the people dead, the accuracy of the bullets coming from 32 stories that had to cross a major [intersection] to get to the festival, the time it takes SWAT to assemble, know the target, and kill the subject. Why was he not a "person of interest" of the FBI for possessing hundreds of guns (without selling not one of them!!), bombs, and intelligence?
Eyewitness report of a cab driver at the Mandalay Bay while it was happening, and nobody was reacting to an active shooter. I just feel it was a distraction and you are the only person I felt I could holla at about this situation.
I’m no conspiracy theorist, but I wouldn’t put it past the powers that be to harm innocent people to promote their agenda. Many people think Vegas, like all recent U.S. mass shootings, was a plot orchestrated to push for stricter gun laws.
The thing about Americans is, in their minds no one of prominence can simply die because they overdosed on drugs, and mass murder can’t happen as a result of a crazed lone wolf. It just has to be more to the story. No matter how insane the theory is, they’ll have one ready to go for the next tragedy.
HOW DO YOU DEAL WITH A MAN WHO DOESN'T WANT TO LEAVE HIS MAMA'S HOUSE?
Dear Willie D:
I don't raise my sons to be mama's boys, and I don't want to date one, but this guy is a really nice guy. He wanted me to live with him at his mother's house. Straight turn-off, lol. Now he’s rude when he talks to me, kmsl. I shouldn't be petty and say things like, 'Go ask your mother can you leave for the weekend when he’s 41, kmsl.
How do you deal with a man who doesn't want to leave his mama’s house?
I STOPPED BEING CUTE AFTER I TURNED 13
Dear Willie D:
Everybody used to always tell me how pretty I was, and boys couldn’t stop gawking at me. I was known as the popular girl up until I reached middle school and turned 13. Then I felt a misplaced sense of disappointment. I’m 30 now, and I still feel the same way.
Although other people tell me I’m pretty, I don’t see it. People lie all the time to make other people feel good. I do it too. Finding the necessary resources and advice to cope is challenging. I don’t need a therapist to tell me what’s wrong with me. I’ve been knowing what’s wrong with me since I turned 13…I’m not cute.
Sometimes I wish I could go back to when THREE guys asked me to the school dance at the same time, and all of them were hot, you know?
Don’t See It:
Who are you comparing yourself to? Hopefully not the women in magazines and television, because 99 percent of them are fake. The moment you start carrying yourself with a certain measure of confidence, you’ll start to notice that not only will others view you as attractive, but you’ll see yourself as attractive.
That’s what counts the most.
HOW DO I RESET MY IMPRESSIONS ON PEOPLE?
Dear Willie D:
I used to be very good friends with several people who are mutual friends until I shared a secret from one friend with two others. But that was just the big thing that made everybody stop dealing with me.
I was the new guy in the group, and I felt like an outcast because I was in a new neighborhood and attended a new school. I just wanted everybody to like me, so I went out of my way to try to help everybody. Like one of my friends’ dad owns a fitness gym. So, most of the people in our circle work out there.
I invited a friend who got into a physical altercation with his girlfriend there, and I took his side when all my friends said they guy was clearly wrong; and looking back on it they were right. But I haven’t been able to clear the air because none of them will talk to me. When I call or text, either they don’t answer or they answer and quickly end the call.
So, how do a square get back in the circle?
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Apologize to each of your friends, and admit your mistakes. Be consistent in reputable behavior, and stay away from the gossip mill. When your friends have disagreements, stand to the side and allow them to work it out; don’t get between them.
If you are unfluctuating and sincere in your actions going forward, your friends will see it and eventually they will come back around. Some will take longer than others. But that’s okay. Absence diminishes small friendships and increases great ones.
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