I Drunk-Cheated on My Boyfriend. Help!
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I DRUNK-CHEATED ON MY BOYFRIEND
Dear Willie D:
I went to a party a few weeks ago and drunk-cheated on my boyfriend. I took six tequila shots and had two beers with a group of friends. One of the friends and I have been friends for three years. We didn’t do anything sexually before that night. I felt so guilty that I called my boyfriend right after it happened, and confessed.
Of course he was angry, but he forgave me. The problem is he won’t stop bringing up my infidelity. I have told him that I was sorry a million times, but he won’t let it go. I realize that I’ve broken his trust, but I still love him and want things to return to normal.
If you were him and your girlfriend drunk-cheated, what might she say or do to convince you that she could be trusted again?
If my girl drunk-cheated on me, there is nothing she could do to mend the relationship, because being drunk only allows a person to do what he or she doesn’t have the guts to do sober. As such, I would bounce. Once the trust is broken, the relationship is over.
MY STEPMOTHER SIGNED A DNR ORDER FOR MY SICK DAD
Dear Willie D:
Until recently, I have always considered my stepmother to be a kind and thoughtful woman. All that changed when my dad had a stroke and was rushed to the hospital this week. We thought it was minor, but the doctor found plaque blockage in the walls of his arteries today. Now he has to have triple-bypass heart surgery.
When the doctor explained his condition, he asked the family, which includes me, my stepmother, my three brothers and my sister, if we wanted them to resuscitate in case my dad stopped breathing. All of the kids agreed to resuscitate, but my stepmother said no. She told us my dad said he didn’t want to be resuscitated if his heart stopped.
Although we protested, she signed the do-not-resuscitate order, and there was nothing we could do because she is his wife. Are me and my siblings wrong to be upset with my stepmother and feel that if my dad’s heart stops beating, we should do everything possible to save his life?
No, you’re not wrong to want to do everything possible to extend your dad’s life. But your stepmother isn’t wrong, either. She followed her husband’s wishes and did what he asked her to do. Instead of being angry with her, you should be proud that you have a strong stepmother and your dad has a dedicated woman at his side.
For her to stand alone in signing that DNR when everybody else was barking down her throat in protest took guts.
ARE LATE BEDTIMES BAD FOR KIDS?
Dear Willie D:
I have three kids: My boys are 11 and 13, and my daughter is 17. All of them typically go to bed after 11 p.m. on school nights. Each morning I wake them up, they are groggy and slow to get dressed, eat breakfast and go off to school.
I fuss with them recurrently about going to sleep early, but they don’t listen. They are all doing well academically, but I tell them there’s always room for improvement. Still, my advice falls on deaf ears. I was always told that late bedtimes are bad for kids, but how do I reinforce that to my kids when they don’t see any adverse effects?
Tell them because they cry bloody murder each morning before going to school, they need to be in bed by 9 p.m. Maybe you can allow the oldest one to stay awake until 10 if she proves she can handle the responsibility.
It’s your house, and you make the rules. When they ask you why it is they can’t stay up later, tell them what Run-D.M.C. said: ’cause “It’s like that, and that’s the way it is — huh!”
WHAT HAPPENED TO REAL NEWS?
Dear Willie D:
I find news today to be repugnant. It makes no difference if it’s USA Today or the local news on TV, it’s all a bunch of regurgitated crap shoved down our throats for sensationalism. CNN was the last holdout, but it has been marred by steady descent for the past ten years.
What happened to real news?
I agree: News today sucks in comparison to the news of yesterday when you had your Walter Cronkites, Ted Koppels and Carl Rowans. The real news has been replaced with tabloids, and swallowed by Americans' appetite to appeal to their emotions over truth.
Once that happened, it made it easy for non-credible so-called news outlets like Fox News to ramp up the political theater with deception and divisiveness by reporting their own opinions and passing them off as facts. But Fox isn’t alone in its quest to destroy what little belief people may still have in broadcast news and journalism.
Perhaps we are all complicit in this less than mentally advanced news cycle.
Ask Willie D anything at askwillied.com, and come back next Thursday for more of his best answers.
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