I Got Stood Up On a Date. Help!
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MY FRIEND AND HIS NEGATIVE ENERGY
Dear Willie D:
I have been platonic friends with a guy since we were freshmen in college. He is the most negative person I know personally, but I love him because he's funny, caring and generous. What can I say to get him to stop being so negative?
Tell him that you love him because he's funny, caring, and generous, but he needs to work on being more positive. When you tell him how you feel, take a few days off from being around him. It'll give him time to feel your void, allow your statement to sink in, and to think about how to improve his attitude; at least when you're around.
Whenever you're on the phone with him or in his presence, and he starts with the disparagement, change the subject, end the call or leave the room. Eventually, he'll get the message. If not, brace yourself for the wreck.
HOW CAN I IMPRESS MY BOSS?
Dear Willie D:
I have the ideal job working in a setting where productivity is employee-centric. I want to move up fast; and I mean super-fast. What can I do to impress my boss so that she considers me irreplaceable, and promotes me quickly?
Make yourself indispensable by showing show up early, being a team player and doing your job better than anybody else can. If I were your boss, that would impress me.
HOW SHOULD I TREAT THE GIRL WHO STOOD ME UP?
Dear Willie D:
After talking on the phone for a couple of weeks I asked a young lady out to dinner, and she agreed. I didn't put a lot effort into preparing for the date, but I did make arrangements, dressed for the occasion, and put a couple of things on hold. I got to the restaurant a little early; no problem.
After 15 minutes of our scheduled appointment, I texted her to check her ETA -- no answer. I waited maybe another ten minutes and called her -- no answer. Now I'm starting to getting worried. I'm thinking maybe something happened to her; like she got into an accident or something. After another 15 minutes or so I got in my car to leave, and she finally called to say she can't make it.
She said that she was still at home, and didn't offer any explanation. When I pressed her she said she apologized, and said she was tired. She is a 30-year-old grown woman who should have a sense of dating etiquette. I understand that shit happens, but what makes people think they don't have to respect other people's time or respect their feelings?
Hey man, don't sweat it. We've all been there a time or two. The way you described your no-show date's numb response to standing you up, tells me she's incapable of being considerate of other people's time and feelings. I once got stood up by a girl who waited until I was pulling up at the restaurant to tell me she couldn't make it. She gave me some lame excuse, and I played it real cool like it didn't bother me. After a few days I asked her out to dinner.
At the time we planned to meet, I was still at home in my draws lying on the sofa watching television. Our scheduled time came and went. I told her I got stuck in traffic and to go ahead and order for me. Each time she texted me to check my arrival time I texted her back with a different time or I'd say I'm almost there. After about 45 minutes of calls and text messages, I called to tell her I couldn't make it. Was I wrong? Maybe -- but damn it feels good to be a gangsta!
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Dear Willie D:
My 12 -year old daughter came home last week using words like penis, and masturbation. Having never witness my daughter speak those sort of words you can imagine my shock. When I asked her where she heard those words she told me the school nurse. She also shared with me that they used a plastic male model to practice putting on contraceptives.
After visiting her school and talking with the nurse, and principle I was told that sex education is part of the curriculum. They made a big deal out of confidentiality and the morning after pill. There was no warning or choice given to the parents for my daughter to opt out of the class. I don't know if what they are doing is legal, but I feel it's morally wrong.
My husband doesn't seem to have a problem with all of this. He thinks I'm overreacting. What do you think?
Unfortunately in today's world children are discovering sex younger and younger, but they're not being educated about it. So yes, I do believe sex education should be taught in schools. However, I believe parents should have an option to omit their child. I also think they should encourage abstinence and discourage unprotected sex.
Kids should study the lives of young people with babies so they can see how hard it is to care for a child. Studying teen parents will also make them aware of all the things they'll miss out on because they can't find a babysitter, or have to work to provide for the child. Many young people have a false perception of how much fun it'll be to have a baby until they actually get one.
I've been a proud parent for 20 years. As much as I love my children, when describing my parental experience, "fun" has never been at the top of the least of adjectives that jump out.
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