I'm Ashamed of My Foot Fetish. Help!
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Dear Willie D:
I'm a big fan and a 22-year old college student in New Orleans who just started coming out to women about my foot fetish. It's a secret that I have kept since I was a kid because I worried that people would think I was weird. Should I keep coming out about it or not?
You should absolutely tell women about your fetish, but that's not something you want to just blurt out on a first date. If she's not into that type of thing you might spook her. Take some time and get to know her before you disclose your foot-job obsession. If you feel uncomfortable about discussing your fetish with your girl, you could see where her head is on the subject by first massaging her feet. Compliment her on how nice her feet look then kiss them and watch her reaction.
If she's smiling, go ahead and suck a couple of those toes. If she seems pleased keep going but if she's giving you that, "what the hell?" look then back off and talk about your fetish with her, preferably at a later time. Most of us have some kind of fetish. Some guys are obsessed with breasts, while others are butt freaks. Personally, I think fetishes are cool as long they don't involve midgets.
Dear Willie D:
I got married a few months back and I hate every second of it. Actually, I have been keeping a relationship with the woman I was cheating with before the marriage. I am to the point where I want to just sit my wife down and tell her, "This is not for me." Is that the right thing to do so I don't waste any more of our time?
I know this is going to sound stupid, but since the two of you were already creeping before you got married, why didn't you just marry the woman you're cheating with? But yeah, if you no longer want to be married to her, telling your wife would be the right thing to do. Better late than never.
WAS MICHAEL JACKSON RESPONSIBLE FOR HIS OWN DEATH?
Dear Willie D:
Since it was announced that Michael Jackson was deceased, I have followed extensive news coverage of his life and death. I am saddened by all of the drama that has plagued his family in the aftermath of his death. As a lifelong fan of his music the lawsuits, child-custody battles and quibbling over his money makes me sick to my stomach.
Attorneys for the concert-promotions company that was sued by Michael's mother and three children for wrongful death claimed that he was a grown man who knew what he was doing when he used the surgical anesthetic Propofol as a sleep aid, which eventually took his life. I just don't see how a man who loved life so much would take a risk like that. This doesn't pass the smell test. Do you think Michael Jackson was responsible for his own death?
The short answer to your question is yes, I do believe Michael Jackson was responsible for his own death. He was a grown man, he knew the consequences, he used the dope anyway. But as in the case of a person who serves as a lookout while his buddy goes into a store, robs it and murders the clerk, the lookout guy deserves equal culpability because he knew what was going on, participated and benefited financially from a criminal act. A jury found the promotions company not guilty, which I thought could have gone either way, but Michael's doctor was definitely guilty as charged because he didn't just prescribe the drug, he pumped it through his veins.
While not criminally responsible, the people in his circle including family members and friends who claimed to love him, but failed to assist him with getting the professional help he needed to beat his addiction are morally guilty. Being in the music industry, I've seen this movie a few times. Most big stars aren't used to rejection. So rather than risk being alienated or taken off the payroll most people in their circle enable their bad behavior and say or do nothing at all.
I would like to think if Michael were in my circle I would have tried harder to save him. But some people can't control a 2-year-old kid. How are they going to tell the King of Pop what to do?
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I'M 15 AND I LIKE A MAN WHO IS 37
Dear Willie D: I have a crush on my neighbor but he's way older than I am. He's 37 years old and I'm 15 years old. Every time I come out of my house and he's in his yard he looks at me like he wants to devour me. Sometimes I put on short-shorts with my cheeks hanging out and go outdoors to get his attention. When I do, if his wife or another grownup is around he will pretend to not look my way but when they're not around he always smiles from ear to ear and speaks to me. Yes, he's older than me but I'm mature for my age. I'm not sure if I want to be his girlfriend but I do want to have sex with him because I really, really like him a lot and he is hot. I have had sex before, so it's not like he would be taking my virginity. Please don't say the politically correct thing and try to talk me out of it. Tell me what I should do so that I can be with him.
Dear Willie D:
I have a crush on my neighbor but he's way older than I am. He's 37 years old and I'm 15 years old. Every time I come out of my house and he's in his yard he looks at me like he wants to devour me. Sometimes I put on short-shorts with my cheeks hanging out and go outdoors to get his attention. When I do, if his wife or another grownup is around he will pretend to not look my way but when they're not around he always smiles from ear to ear and speaks to me.
Yes, he's older than me but I'm mature for my age. I'm not sure if I want to be his girlfriend but I do want to have sex with him because I really, really like him a lot and he is hot. I have had sex before, so it's not like he would be taking my virginity. Please don't say the politically correct thing and try to talk me out of it. Tell me what I should do so that I can be with him.
Okay, I won't say the politically correct thing. I'll just say the correct thing. If you like the man as much as you say you do, leave him alone. If your teasing and his flirting escalate into something more he could find himself in prison for unlawful sex with a minor. What you're feeling isn't love or even like. It's hormones, and we've all been there. Don't be selfish. Think of all the other people your actions will affect: your parents, his wife, his children if he has any.
Once the truth is revealed, he will have to register as a sex offender for the rest of his life. Do you really want all of those burdens on your conscience? Be careful with your temporary feelings; they could lead to permanent damage.
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