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I'M 15 AND READY TO LOSE MY V-CARD
Dear Willie D:
I'm crushing on a guy who lives near my cousin who I met a month ago. He is 17 and I'm 15. He is fun, and attractive. I can tell he likes me because he's always calling and texting me, asking how I'm doing. My cousin says he's a player, but I don't see him like that. I know all about safe sex, and how to avoid getting pregnant.
I have been holding out for the right guy, and I know I'm taking a chance with him, but I'm ready to have sex because I'm always horny. I like him but if he didn't want to see me again it would hurt, but it wouldn't be the end of the world. If I make sure he wears a condom, what's the worst thing that can happen besides him not wanting to see me again?
V-Card:
So you think you're ready for sex because you're horny all the time, huh? Being horny does not mean you're ready for sex. It just means you're horny. Do you know how many young girls who had sex because they were horny, and ended up pregnant, with a venereal disease, or emotionally scarred? Don't discount the fact that condoms often slip off, or break.
The feelings you have are natural. However, I think you're too young emotionally for the consequences associated with sex. But if you're going to do it, which I suspect you will, at least let your first time be with someone you've actually dated. Later in life you'll feel better about yourself; especially when sharing your story with your own daughter. It will look better on your resume.
WHY DO PEOPLE BELIEVE IN GOD?
Dear Willie D:
No one has ever been able to definitively prove that God exists. With so much destruction and chaos in the world, it's impossible to have some great holy spirit floating in the clouds overseeing all that is good and bad in the world.
If there was a God he would not allow babies to be raped, and people to go unfed? God would prevent debilitating diseases from destroying our bodies and he wouldn't let terrorists bomb buildings. If God has all the answers and is the almighty, and can impose his will and has the power to do anything surely he could've prevented slavery and the Holocaust. He could stop racism, sexism and discrimination, right?
I don't understand why people believe in God. From everything I've seen, God has absolutely no more power than a neighborhood bartender. He's just someone you tell your problems to.
Non-Believer:
There are various reasons why people believe in God. Some people believe in God because they were taught that God is real since they were very young. Some people believe in God because their religion teaches them to, and they need an explanation for why certain things are the way they are in the world. If you are a believer, to say, "It's God will" is all the explanation you need.
There are others who believe in God because they need a higher power; something stronger than themselves to keep them in check. To believe or not to believe is ultimately a personal choice. One thing's for sure: if you don't believe, you better hope like hell you're right.
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