Is Rap Acceptable In Your Sex Mix?
Some rappers happen to be thoughtful, intelligent people. Every Monday (that isn't a national holiday) Rocks Off will have some of them here discussing issues relevant to their culture.
This Week's Panel: Chuckway, Renzo, Kyle Hubbard
Not Invited: Our wife, who thinks rap is unacceptable during sex, as well as while riding in the car, dancing at a club, and just life in general.
This Week's Prompt: So we've got a question this week that a reader passed along -actually, he's passed it along every week for the past three weeks. And since it looks like he's going to continue to do so for the rest of time until it gets answered, we figured we'd just put it to you all so he goes away. Here's an excerpt from his email:
"My girlfriend gets mad at me because I like to listen to rap music while we do it. I don't understand this. Rap music is beautiful. Can you ask the [Round Table] panel their opinion on this? Is it okay for me to listen to rap during intercourse? What about if it's something relevant like Scarface's "Fuck Faces"? Please help."
Easy enough: Is it okay to listen to rap during sex? If so, which artists? If not, which artists are excluded?
Chuckway: It doesn't matter to me... really I just need a tempo to do it to [laughs].
Rocks Off: Cool. So J-Dawg's "Back Trippin'," that's a good one then? We imagine that that's what Hannibal Lecter listens to when he beds a woman. Or eats a woman. Whatev.
Chuckway: I got some last night to Behind Tint Vol. 2. "I Gotta Get It" [laughs].
Renzo: To me, it depends on what you're trying to do. If you're making love then I don't think that it's normal to have rap music in the mix because rap is usually aggressive. However, if you plan on beating it up for little while to spice things up, I would recommend a little M.O.P. while it's going on.
What you wanna avoid though is choosing a song that has a really crazy lyric that demeans her while it's happening. You are supposed to be providing yourself with a soundtrack so try not to slide a Too Short record unless she knows she's just a fly-by-night chick. It's messed up but it's true. No artist is off limits, just make sure the action is matching the soundtrack.
Rocks Off: Okay, we think we understand: Song = intent. So, it's like if we put on that song that Drake and The-Dream did from Thank Me Later, that'd be good for keeping it a sort of upbeat-sexy. And if we put on Z-Ro, that'd be good for stabbing her in the neck and then robbing her after we're finished?
Renzo: You got the first part right but the Z-Ro part I think you haven't quite got it together. Z-Ro would make you beat the coochie up then tell her about all of your problems afterwards, then would probably dismiss her because you would have trust issues. That's how it works.
Rocks Off: That does make more sense.
Kyle Hubbard: Rap music is a necessity in any sex mix; the trick is picking the appropriate songs. There are a lot of rap songs that could be considered offensive in this kind of scenario, so you have to do some research and find the real romantic tracks, the kind of songs that will get sparks flying.
Lil Jon and Ying Yang Twins' song "Get Low" is always something I have found to get the ladies' hearts melting, and pretty much anything in their entire body of work goes a long way of letting a girl know how you really feel.
Eazy-E's "Gimme That Nut" is an extremely poetic song. I have found it has been able to express the feelings I have for a special lady that I can't put in words, because let's face it, it's hard to open yourself up to somebody, look them in the eyes and tell them how much they mean to you.
But what about the girl that you have been with a few times and that you are starting to catch feelings for? The song selection in this case takes even more grace and care, because you want her to know that she is more than just someone you bang. So how does one play this?
You could go with some proven classics such as 2 Live Crew's "Pop That Pussy" or even Luda's "Pussy Poppin'," but those are predictable. For this situation you want to go with Eminem's "Kim." Not only is it extremely sexy but it also lets the girl know that you see a future with her beyond just the moments of drunk passion and mornings of sober regret.
So yes, rap music absolutely belongs in the sex mix, just don't put any Drake in there... he is a sexist pig and girls find him repulsive.
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