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My Ex Is a Cheating Man-Whore. Help!

Welcome to Ask Willie D, Rocks Off's advice column where the Geto Boys MC answers reader questions about matters, in his own words, "funny, serious or unpredictable." Something on your mind? Ask Willie D!

My Ex Is a Cheating Man-Whore. Help!
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I NEED HELP WITH KISSING A GIRL FOR THE FIRST TIME

Dear Willie D:

There's this girl I like that goes to school with me. Her dad and my dad just became friends so I'm starting to see her more often now and even talk to her on the phone. There is a party this weekend with all of my schoolmates and she will be there. I plan on kissing her, but I don't know where to start. I don't want to mess it up. We're both 15. How should I go about kissing her?

First Kiss:

The first smooch is like sealing a relationship with a kiss. If you do it right, you're good. If you do it wrong, things could go bad real fast. Don't work yourself up with too much planning. Planting the perfect kiss in real life seldom turns out the way it does in the movies. Just relax and let it flow naturally. Try to pull her away from her friends so you can enjoy her company alone.

Make her feel special by asking about her personal interests and listening to her. When it's time for you guys to part ways, lean in and give her a kiss. The degree of affection and where you place the kiss should be determined by how well the two of you are vibing. If the vibe is strong, lean in and give her a soft kiss on the lips. If it's average, kiss her on the cheek or her forehead. If it's below average, skip the kiss altogether and give her a quick homey hug and call it a night.

If you choose option one, play it safe and kiss her with a closed mouth. Exchanging bodily fluids can ruin a first kiss for a young girl who may not be quite ready.

MY SEX-OFFENDER BROTHER BABYSITS HIS GIRLFRIEND'S DAUGHTER

Dear Willie D:

My brother is a sex offender, and I'm torn between protecting his relationship with his new girlfriend and protecting her very young daughter from possibly being harmed by him. They have been dating for a year and his girlfriend still doesn't know he is a registered sex offender. Sometimes when I see the little girl I wonder if my brother has already gotten to her.

He shows her the same kind of excessive attention that he showed his last girlfriend's daughter. I love my brother, but I don't trust him around underage girls. I want him to be happy, but not at the risk of a child's well-being. Should I inform his girlfriend of his past or stay quiet and hope for the best?

Torn Sister:

When a child molester has private access to a child, you don't stay quiet and hope for the best; you expose him. If left in the company of an offender too long, the smartest kid is not savvy enough to avoid being seduced by a clever and experienced child molester. If you don't inform the mother and something happens to that baby, you would be just as guilty and thereby deserving of the same punishment as your child-molesting brother.

Let the mother know what type of man is in the presence of her daughter so she can take the necessary precautions to protect her daughter. If it were your daughter, you would want to know.

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WHY DO WOMEN WANT A FREE RIDE AND THINK MEN SHOULD PAY FOR EVERYTHING?

Dear Willie D:

I'm a 27-year-old man who doesn't mind spoiling a woman, but the self-entitlement thing that's going on with the women of today makes me want to be just as selfish as they are. Women today are lazy. They want everything but they don't want to sacrifice anything to get it. They don't want to work and even if they do they want to keep all of the money they make to themselves, and spend the man's money.

Since women are jumping up and down about equal rights for everything else, I think they should have equal rights to pay for their own meals, open their own doors and pay their [own] bills, or at least pay half if they're living with a man. I just stopped seeing a young woman whom I had dated for two months because she slapped me for calling her needy.

I could have hurt her, but again she got a free ride because she is a female. I'm sick of self-entitled females. Is this something that I'm supposed to accept as a man?

Sick of Paying:

I don't know what world you live in, but most of the women I know get up to hit the pavement 5-6 days a week and put in just as much work on the job as men do. If they have kids, they also put in countless hours driving them all over town to birthday parties, school functions and family outings.

The give-and-take in your relationship ultimately depends on your arrangement with your significant other. Most women, if given the option, would like a man to provide for them financially even if they do have a job. Because it is the natural order of society, women generally operate under the mantra of what's mine is mine and what's yours is ours.

Personally I don't mind providing financially for my woman as long as she compensates in other areas, such as taking care of the household and the kids in my absence. The type of woman you want, who earns her own money and splits the bills down the middle with her significant other, can easily be found in today's world. You just have to know where to look.

I WANT TO BLOCK MY EX-BOYFRIEND ON SOCIAL MEDIA

Dear Willie D:

So my ex-boyfriend is a cheating man-whore and I want to block him from my social accounts. I don't use the accounts a lot, but every so often when I'm on the Internet his status updates pop up on my Facebook news feed or my Instagram home page. Sometimes he likes my pictures and it pisses me off because I don't want anything to do with him. I haven't spoken to him in months, and I don't want to.

Every time I see his activities I'm reminded of a sad chapter in my life, and it's just depressing. Do you think it's immature for me to block him?

Status Updates:

No, it's not immature. You do whatever you have to do for peace of mind and to move on. Block him, but not on your phone. You're going to need a way for him to contact you so you can laugh at his pitiful voice when he comes crawling, and begging for you to take him back.

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