My Ex Is Threatening Revenge Porn. Help!

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MY EX THREATENED TO POST NAKED PICTURES OF ME

Dear Willie D:

When my boyfriend was working out of town, I took some nude pictures of myself and sent them to him to help him get through the night -- if you know what I mean. Now that we are no longer dating, he's bitter and threatening to post the pictures all over social media, and send them to my dad's cellphone.

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If he sends the pictures, I would be mortified beyond belief. Please tell me what to do to stop him, and get the pictures back?

Posing a Threat:

Since you sent him the pictures, he has a right to be in possession of them. What he doesn't have a right to do is harass you by posting the pictures on social media or sharing them with your dad. His threats are a classic case of "revenge porn," which is illegal in 13 U.S. states so far.

His threats can be viewed as blackmail. Contact the police, file a complaint and get a restraining order. You could also contact a lawyer to send him a stern letter demanding the pictures be destroyed and outline the consequences should he distribute them.

Looks like you had it right by dropping him. It's lames like that who mess up the game for the rest of us who count on those pictures to get through the night. What a loser!

THE ONE I CAN'T SEEM TO GET

Dear Willie D:

I have no problem with the ladies. I have always been able to get any woman I wanted. If she gave me five minutes of her time, she was mine. But the one I have never been able to get is the one I've spoken to for several hours. No matter what I say or do, she just won't take the bait.

To be honest, she's not the most attractive girl I can get in terms of looks. It's her elusiveness and the thrill of the chase that makes her so desirable. When I first set my sights on her it was a thing of conquest, but I've grown to appreciate her personality, and I want something more.

What's my next best move to sweep her off her feet, Mr. Clean up Man?

Something More:

Let me get this straight. You confess that you appreciate her personality, but earlier you said it's her elusiveness and the thrill of the chase that makes her so desirable. I think it's the latter, and something tells me she does too; that's why she's not taking the bait.

This one only wants to be friends, so take it like a man, brother, and move her into "The One That Got Away" file. If I am to take your word at face value, that would mean you went from a heartless Lothario to the type of dude who will pick up a bruised apple inside the corner store and say, "Who did this to you!" Not a good look, bro. You're losing it.

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  IS IT OKAY TO HIT MY DOG?

Dear Willie D:

I have an eight-month-old Rottweiler that was given to me by my cousin's boyfriend. He is big for his age. I'm not a huge dog lover, but he barks very loud whenever he hears any noises outside of my house, so I feel as though having him is worth the time and money I spend taking him to the vet, feeding, walking, grooming and cleaning up after him.

I usually keep him in the study near the front door whenever I leave the house. I had a friend of mine who is a welder build a custom gate that's attached to the door frame of the study, but somehow [the dog] got out; when I came home the fence was broken, and he had taken a dump on my new carpet.

I was livid. I went in the garage and grabbed a water hose and gave him about ten hard lashes. Now he cowers whenever I come near him. I felt bad for beating him, but how else is he supposed to learn to take care of his business outside, not in?

Worth the Time:

Of course your dog is cowering. If someone beat you with a water hose, so would you. Unlike children, you can't punish your dog hours after he does something and expect him to understand what he did wrong to deserve punishment. In my limited experience with dog ownership, what worked for me to effectively potty-train my dog was patience and consistency.

If you're going to keep your dog inside the house and expect him not to relieve himself, taking him for a walk several times a day in the beginning, and later at least once every morning and early evenings would be a good start. Then buy a dog training book so you can become familiar with basic training and certain characteristics of your dog, or hire a trainer, or give it to someone who might appreciate it more.

Do this immediately, because if you keep beating your dog with a water hose, PETA might show up at your house and hit you with one.

WOULD THE WORLD BE BETTER OFF WITHOUT MEN?

Dear Willie D:

I'm not a feminist but I am a woman who has been burned once too many [times] by lying, cheating and abusive men. Men are responsible for everything that's wrong with the world: wars, terrorism, human trafficking, racism, fascism, rape - I could go on and on. It just seems like the world would be better off without men. You'll probably disagree because you're a man, right?

Burned Out:

Wrong. I disagree because it is scientifically impossible for women to have a sustainable existence without the assistance of men to reproduce. But let's assume it was possible for women to live in a man-less world. The wrongs you listed all involve power: one person's need to control another. Today more men are in power positions than women.

I'm not going to get into all the things throughout history men has invented that we rely on in day-to-day life. I'll just say this. If there were no men, women would have all the power. Because power often corrupts, women would be just as likely to abuse their power by starting conflict, discriminating based on race and religion, and forcing sex on weaker women, and girls.

Just as there are men who are kind and loving, there are women who are mean and harmful. When it's all said and done, all the wrongs that exist in the world today would endure even if there were not one single man on this planet, because evil does not favor gender.

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