My Friend Is Prettier Than Me. Help!
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I'M JEALOUS OF MY FRIEND BECAUSE SHE'S PRETTIER THAN ME
Dear Willie D:
Hanging out with my close, beautiful friend has always made me feel less important, and sometimes unattractive. She's always the first one that guys see. Lately, I have found myself being really resentful of her to the point that I no longer want to hang out with her, and tell her about events that I might be attending because I'm tired of competing with her.
I feel like such a snake. She is a good friend, and has always had my back. I know I shouldn't feel the way I do, but I can't help it. How can I cope and coexist with a friend who is prettier than me?
As a rule of thumb a girl should never have a friend who is one point more attractive than she is. That's because the less pretty girl will eventually get tired of being overlooked by the hot guys and getting the sloppy seconds that the pretty girl turns down.
Everybody is unique in his or her own way, so be thankful for the things that make you desirable to guys. Honestly, if it bothers you that much, find yourself a new friend who is less attractive than you to hang out with. No one will blame you for it.
Dear Willie D:
I'm in an on-again, off-again relationship. We have been together for four years. You would think by now we would have worked out all the kinks. But it's like we enjoy the pain. We fight then make up, then fight again.
Yesterday I said to him, "You're the most important person in my life. I love you" and he just said, "Thanks." Today when he asked me what was bothering me, and I told him about his reaction to my statement on yesterday, he told me I was a drama queen. So now we're off-again. How do we fix this roller coaster?
I can't tell you if now is the time to end your relationship, but on-again, off-again relationships traditionally end up in the gutter. If you really want to salvage your relationship, sit down with your man, and have a heart-to-heart about how you feel without pointing fingers.
But be mindful that fixing the roller coaster will only involve more of the same: sudden and extreme changes.
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Dear Willie D:
Good day from Australia! I'm so sick of seeing and hearing about Duchess Kate, the Queen and the rest of the Royal Family that I want to puke. What have they done to deserve adulation other than be born? The obsession that the American media have with them is repulsive, and makes me question your value system?
There are thousands of people around the world who have contributed far more to society. Why not recognize them?
Maybe Americans care so much about the Royal Family because with all the madness going on around us, we need a good fairy tale to believe in to offer an escape from reality. Personally, every time I think of the Royal Family, and all that influence, and all that power, and all that privilege, I think about all that ill-gained wealth.
I can't see myself bowing to the Queen, but if I did, I would keep an eye on her at all times.
WAS I WRONG FOR BEING MEAN TO A STRANGER?
Dear Willie D:
As I was walking through the grocery store I felt somebody watching me, so I looked back and it was the same guy I saw in the parking lot staring at me as I parked and got out my car. I walked a few aisles over and there he was again walking in my direction, but this time he said, "Hi." I gave him a cold look, and continued shopping.
After I saw his reaction I felt bad. He wasn't angry, or dejected. He seemed flustered; like he couldn't understand why anyone would not greet someone back who greeted him. I find myself looking mean all the time to discourage guys from speaking to me who I don't know, because some of them creep me out. But am I wrong for being that way?
You were completely wrong for treating that poor guy the way you did. He probably thought you were a nice, respectable woman whose beauty he wanted to acknowledge. Then again, he could have been an axe murderer.
When I leave my house, like you, I encounter people from all walks of life. If they greet me, I greet them back; I don't have time to speculate on their motives. Maybe your instincts were right. The guy might have been a weirdo, but so what? You don't have to live with him, talk to him or be around him. There's no reason to be rude. Just say hello back, and keep it moving. Not a big deal.
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