My Husband Doesn't Give Me Enough Sex. Help!
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MY HUSBAND DOESN’T GIVE ME ENOUGH SEX
Dear Willie D:
My husband and I have sex at least ten times a week. We are very adventurous with our sexuality, but afterwards I’m always left wanting more. We have been married for 14 years and he doesn’t get it back up as fast as he used to. Maybe it’s age; maybe it’s the boredom of being with the same person for so long.
Either way, I’m starting to desire being with another man as a supplement to the sex my husband provides. Society says this is wrong, but I feel somewhat justified because it’s his fault that he can’t give me what I need. What should I do?
If a man can cheat on a woman because she “let herself go,” I guess a woman can cheat on a man because he can’t get it back up fast enough. See how ridiculous that sounds? You’re getting it ten times a week. That’s more than some porn stars.
Talk to your man and ask him if he’s willing to get some clinical help to step up his performance. If not, don’t be greedy and destroy your marriage chasing a cheap thrill. The pain of losing a loving partner is far greater than skipping a few orgasms.
I USED MY DAD’S CREDIT CARD WITHOUT PERMISSION
Dear Willie D:
My dad left me his credit card at home to buy pizza, and I went online and bought a pair of vintage sneakers off eBay. I hadn’t intended to buy them, but after I paid for the pizza I started thinking about the sneakers from the day before. I saw them on the site, and I was bidding on them but the bid went over my budget.
I only spent $200 of my dad’s money; the rest I paid for out of pocket. I’m trying to figure out a way to tell him about the purchase without him blowing a fuse. He is usually a calm person, but when it comes to money he is a tightwad. In a way I hated violating his trust, but I really wanted those kicks. What can I do to get out of this jam?
I hope you understand that using your dad’s credit card to make a purchase without his permission is credit card fraud. The right thing to do would be to contact the company and reverse the payment if your purchase is covered under a refund policy. You could also try to borrow the money and put it back on the card before he finds out. Either way, you’re going to have to tell your dad that you violated his trust and stole his money.
Tell your dad what you did and accept whatever consequences come your way. He will be hurt and disappointed in you, but he will appreciate the fact that you took responsibility for your actions. If he finds out before you come clean it’s going to be even worse. Going forward, try not to be so materialistic and self-serving. If you can’t afford it and your parents won’t buy it for you, you probably don’t need it.
IT DRIVES ME CRAZY THAT PEOPLE THINK MY FRIEND IS NICE WHEN SHE IS REALLY EVIL
Dear Willie D:
My friend portrays an image of kindness and concern to everybody she comes in contact with. But the truth is, she’s the exact opposite. She laughs in our other friends’ faces and talk behind their backs, so I’m sure she does the same thing to me. I want to tell the others how fake she is, but I don’t want to be messy.
Do you think I should let our other friends know who she really is, or should I let them find out for themselves?
You are correct in that if she laughs in the faces of your other friends and talk behind their backs, she’s likely doing the same thing to you. In which case I’m sure they are well aware of the type of person she is. Hell, they’re probably trying to figure out how to tell you how fake she is.
The greater question is, why are you still friends with a two-faced person you don’t trust? As soon as a person exposes him or herself to be a fake friend to me I don’t deal with them anymore for life; regardless of how often they might apologize. Once a fake friend, always a fake friend.
WHY IS FLOYD MAYWEATHER HATED SO MUCH?
Dear Willie D:
What did you think about the Mayweather/ Pacquiao fight? I paid $25.00 to watch the fight at Twin Peaks. At first I was going for Pacquiao, but when I heard some of the derogatory comments people were making about Mayweather, I switched sides. I’ve been to many boxing matching in person, and I have never seen so many personal attacks hurled at one fighter.
I didn’t like Mayweather as a person because he’s a woman-beater, and I still don’t like him for that reason. I’ve heard others say they don’t like him because he’s too arrogant, flashy, or whatever. I’m not the type of person who try to make everything a race issue, but the energy that night did seem to have a racial undertone.
There are many athletes in America who have a bad attitude, but people don’t hate them to that extent. So why Mayweather?
The fight was lackluster, but here’s the deal. Floyd fought the same style of fight he’s been fighting since he was an amateur, “stick and move.” Manny Pacquiao is the reason the fight was boring because he fought Floyd’s fight instead of his fight. Pacquiao is a brawler, not a boxer. I can understand him being gun-shy about getting knocked out again, but if he had attacked and fought his fought, he might have stood a chance at winning.
Now as for Floyd’s character, some people say they don’t like him because he’s an asshole, but so is Charles Barkley, and Donald Trump, and people still admire them. As for the domestic-abuse charges, that’s not cool. But as I said before, with all the abusers out there getting a slap on the wrist, police departments’ failure to test 90 percent of rape kits in America, and the government cutting back on social services, I didn't know Americans were so passionate about domestic abuse and the safety of women. That leaves me with the same question. Why Mayweather?
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