My Mom's Boyfriend Won't Stop Texting Me. Help!
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MY MOM’S BOYFRIEND WON’T STOP TEXTING ME
Dear Willie D:
I went out to dinner with my mom and her new boyfriend, and we took a bunch of pictures. The battery to my phone was dead, so my mom took her phone out to take the pictures, but she couldn’t get a quality picture. So her boyfriend volunteered to take the pictures with his phone.
He asked me for my phone number so that he could forward the pictures to me, so I gave it to him. He sent the pictures to my mom and me, and the rest of the evening was perfect. The problem is, since then he has been sending me text messages saying stuff like “Good morning sweetie!” and “Thinking of you.”
The first time he did it was odd. But now it’s creeping me out. I never respond. My mom really likes him, so I don’t want to be rude to him. I just want him to stop sending me messages. Do you have any idea what I should do to make him stop contacting me?
It's not necessarily inappropriate for a man to text words of affection to his girlfriend’s daughter. It all depends on context. The next time he sends you a “sweet” message, text him this: Please don’t send me any more text greetings, or messages telling me that you’re thinking of me. Not only do I find them to be inappropriate, but they make me uncomfortable. Thank you.
That should be the end of it, but save the messages in case you have to loop your mom in. It’s worth noting that some people are sentimentally emotional. My stepdad calls everybody "baby." He don’t mean anything by it, but when he started referring to me as "baby," I nipped that in the bud real quick. Because a man calling another man "baby" ain’t gangster at all.
FACEBOOK BLOCKED MY PAGE FOR SPEAKING MY MIND
Dear Willie D:
I’m a longtime fan and Facebook friends with you. Recently you added me to the Coon Hunting group. Me being not so politically correct, I knew Facebook wouldn't take long to remove this from their pages. Unfortunately, I made a comment that got me banned from Facebook. My comment wasn't vulgar, and it wasn't sexual.
I don't believe it was anything but my opinion. My comment was "If you like Charles Barkley, you’re a coooon." Now I'm banned from Facebook. I do have better things to do with my time, but to me this was a very Hitler-like expression of power to stop my opinion from being seen or heard. It's not like I had a campaign against anyone, but it was a onetime thing that could have used a warning.
Now I can't even message friends on Facebook if there's a death in the family. I don't think it is fair. So my question to you is: Do you think Facebook or any major corporations have the right to silence people who want to voice our opinions in a private group? And should we be held accountable if the group is private? Basically, how is this bullshit fair?
I’ve been getting a lot of mail recently from followers and friends on Facebook who say their accounts were blocked because of their comments. Funny thing is, if you post some stupidity on Facebook, you’re good to go. The issue that I and many people have with Facebook is that they tend to cherry-pick which accounts they block. A quick search in your browser and you’ll find a plethora of hate groups that’s been going strong on Facebook for years.
But they flagged The Coon Hunters group as a hate group and shut it down in less than 24 hours. Facebook, and others who own the platforms their users use, whether private or public, have a right to silence people who want to voice their opinion, especially if that opinion is counter to what they believe. But I’m part of the others, and I anticipated that Facebook would shut me down.
That’s why I started the Coon Hunters group on my website first. So go to willied.com, where you can take the Coon Hunters Pledge, and say whatever you want about coons. That’s the cool thing about free enterprise and freedom of speech: If somebody don’t like what you represent, there’s always somebody who will.
AM I MOVING TOO FAST?
Dear Willie D:
I have a bit of a reputation for falling head-over-heels in a relationship. When I like a girl, I can’t help myself from saying what I feel. A girl who I was dating for two weeks recently broke up with me because I told her that I thought I was falling in love with her.
I guess I probably shouldn’t have said it, but that’s how I felt. Is two weeks too soon to tell a girl you love her and you want to spend the rest of your life with her?
Head Over Heels:
Many people believe in love at first sight, so I suspect that love at two weeks is possible. But I have never met anyone in my life that I wanted to spend the rest of my life with after knowing her for only two weeks — and I have been in the company of scores of beautiful and intelligent women.
You gotta stop saying things just because that’s what you’re thinking. Once when I was in court fighting a traffic ticket, I wanted to call the cop who wrote the ticket a bitch-ass nigga. But instead, I chilled. Keeping it all the way real sometimes means using a filter to get a better look.
I STILL HATE ABRAHAM LINCOLN
Dear Willie D:
I don’t understand why so many people praise Abraham Lincoln. He was a nightmare tyrant who violated the U.S. Constitution by engaging Northerners in an unjust war against the South, and killing hundreds of thousands of innocent civilians.
To this day, the world is being kept in the dark about “Honest Abe’s” true agenda for the Confederate War, which was to save the Union, not to end slavery. Why isn’t anyone talking about this giant falsity?
You’re absolutely right about Lincoln violating the Constitution, and starting the Confederate War to save the Union. But unjust or not, if that’s what it took to end slavery, I’m giving ole Abe a pass on this one.
Ask Willie D anything at willied.com/ask-willie-d, and come back next Thursday for more of his best answers.
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