We Broke Up, But Now I Want Him Back. Help!
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I BROKE UP WITH HIM, NOW I WANT HIM BACK
Dear Willie D:
I just got out of a bad relationship with a guy who is a dog in every sense of the word; all he needs is a collar and leash. Not only was he unfaithful, he was a user. Anytime we went somewhere, he always expected me to pay. My boyfriend before him was the polar opposite: if we went out, he insisted on paying for lunch and dinner. He opened doors and was an all-around gentlemen.
He was also loyal to me. But when he allowed me to take him for granted, I guess I just got used to walking over him and lost respect for him. Soon I started being cordial with a guy at the gym where I work out. I will admit my attraction to him was mainly physical at first because he was in great shape and he knew it. He is above average-looking but his physique gave him a level of confidence that women find attractive.
Shortly after meeting him I broke it off with my boyfriend to pursue a relationship with him. But after just two months in I realized that I had made a big mistake and ended the relationship. I want my old boyfriend back but I'm ashamed to tell him. How do I build up the courage to ask him back?
Assuming that he is available, even if he's not available the first thing you need to do is contact the man and apologize. Let him hear you verbalize what he already knows; you took his kindness for weakness and thought you were better than him. You only live once, so you may as well give it a shot. If he doesn't have a girlfriend ask him would he like to meet you for lunch or coffee. Share with him how immature you were and that being with the other guy really made you appreciate how great of a guy he is.
It's only been a couple of months since the two of you have been apart, so there's a good chance he still has feelings for you. If he takes you back it will take some time for him to trust you again. But you can expedite the process by reintroducing to him the girl he first fell in love with. Humble yourself and keep in mind: your feet are made to walk on pavement, not people.
HELP ME PROTECT MY DOG FROM BIGGER DOGS IN MY NEIGHBORHOOD
Dear Willie D:
I live in a high-rise building filled with dog owners. Sometimes when I get into the elevator with my dog other larger dogs become aggressive towards her, and I have to get between them. I have a beagle who barks but otherwise wouldn't harm a fly, but some of the other dogs are very aggressive and if given the chance they would likely kill my dog. How can I get the other owners to control their dogs?
Politely tell them to control their dog and that your dog doesn't want to interact with theirs. Speak softly, and carry a big stick -- literally.
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Dear Willie D:
I have been dating my boyfriend for two years and we have agreed that we will finally have sex. I am 17 and he is 18. I have talked about everything with my mom and she told me that she supports me, but to be careful to not get pregnant because it will ruin my future. The problem is my boyfriend wants to have sex without a condom. He said he wants the first time to be natural, and that he will pull out.
Because both of us are virgins we don't have to worry about getting a disease. I want to go through with it and have sex without a contraceptive, but I'm paranoid about getting pregnant. I'm not on birth control. What should I do?
Get on birth control.
I NEED SOME GOOD REVENGE IDEAS TO USE AGAINST MY EX
Dear Willie D:
I just found out my girlfriend is cheating on me. Even though I'm 21 years old I'm not a social-media type of person, so I had no idea what my girlfriend was doing on Instagram. It turns out that she posted a new picture of her hugged up with a guy that I didn't know. My friend called me and asked me were we still dating because he had came across the picture on her page.
I was stunned at his question because I was just with my girl earlier that day and we made plans to attend a concert out of town. I went to my friend's house and he showed me the picture. When he clicked onto the guys name that was tagged we saw the same picture posted on his page but he was saying that she was his girl, and people were commenting saying that they make a good couple.
When I asked my girl who he was and was she seeing him, she was very evasive and tried to lie about everything. But she is a very bad liar so I was able to trap her easily. I got her to admit that she kissed him. Man, when she confessed I felt my heart being snatched right out of my chest. We are still together but I want revenge. How do I get back at her?
Are you speaking of "putting Nair in her shampoo" revenge or are you talking "make her disappear from the face of the earth" revenge? Never mind. You could cheat on her with her best friend, but then what? It is a sign of immaturity and low self-esteem if you are only staying in the relationship to retaliate and hurt her.
Why not just leave, and have a good life without her? No need to reinvent the wheel. As always, the best revenge is living well.
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