Although my English is not good, I read your "Deliverance from China" article [by John Suval, June 22] carefully by dictionary because I am interested in that subject.
I just came to Houston two months ago from Beijing, so I understand Lijun's situation in China. It is not easy for a girl to do this. She is brave. I know most girls like her selected the abortion in China. In China, it is not permitted for an unmarried woman to have a baby. It means the baby will not have official identification. Unless you are rich, it is difficult to raise the baby to become an adult.
I think it was also difficult for Lijun because China is a traditional society. People do not accept the situation of a single woman having a baby.
Anyhow, it is a good article. From it, I now know what Americans think of this kind of thing. I will be very glad to help her if she needs it.
What a great article! Although I cannot relate to Lijun's situation with China, I can relate to all the feelings you describe with being a single parent. Her choice was heart-wrenching, as was mine. My daughter is 13 now. When I chose to keep my baby, it was at a time when even in America it was not so acceptable (before Murphy Brown). It doesn't matter what country you are from; choosing life for your baby is difficult when you are alone, but also the most rewarding and fantastic choice you can make.
Name withheld by request
Axiom 1: Women (except those with no sisters and many brothers) don't tell anyone what they really think ["Tea and Strumpets," by Lisa Gray, June 22]. Many have become so used to saying what the other person wants to hear instead of what they really think that they have forgotten what they really think.
Axiom 2: The frustrations of living Axiom 1 result in emotional blizzards that resemble thunderstorms -- intermittent hail, lethal lightning, deafening thunder and unpredictable damage.
Axiom 3: Sexual attraction is nature's low-power, unreliable and intermittent way of keeping men and women from moving to unisex nations where the anger, hurt, frustration and wasted emotional energy become a distant memory.
Give me another 54 years, and maybe I'll be able to discern some other axioms. (No guarantees!)
Lisa Gray's article was, if I may use the feminine vernacular, just precious. Aside from some obligatory thumping on us "uncouth" men, the article revolves around the question "What do women want?"
Even as Gray's article is being read around town, a generation of younger women is offering the definitive answer: Everything for nothing.
After 35 years in the workplace, women have finally discovered feminism's foundational flaw and what men have always known: Working yourself to death is not power, never was. And that cleavage, like it or not, is power, and always has been. This may prove women to be smarter than men, or at least more willing to act on their knowledge.
Gray is right on the button when she points out that "Today's young woman could care less about equality." Why should they care when equality would be a step down into a less privileged, more stressful life?
My heart goes out to Gray. It must be difficult to have worked hard for independence and dignity, only to see the next generation of women figure out they don't have to.
Step On It!
Thank you for the informative and positive article on dog parks ["Going to the Dogs," by Edith Sorenson, June 22]. I lived in Austin for a year and a half and took my dog to the dog park at Riverside and I-35 every day. Not only was my dog happy to socialize and exercise, it gave me a chance to meet people. I spent many evenings at the park playing with the dogs, chatting with fellow Austinites and enjoying the outdoors. In addition, those dog owners who lived in apartments found the dog park to be a lifesaver!
Peer pressure worked for keeping the park clean, and everyone pitched in to bring jugs of water for the dogs. Many of us volunteered to help spread cedar chips and do an annual cleanup. As far as I know the only thing the city did was trash pickup. The volunteers happily took care of the rest.
Houston has a definite need for a dog park. Hopefully support for such a park can be rallied at the upcoming dog show at the Astrohall. Come on, dog people, show your support!
Pawning Them Off
Any allegation (from your admittedly biased source) that Jim and Franci Crane have been anything but very caring, kind, loving and generous parents to Krystal and Jared is totally inaccurate ["Transferring Assets," by George Flynn, May 25].
It is obvious to all those who know Jim and Franci, and have any familiarity with the situation, that they both love Krystal and Jared deeply, and that their goal in this dispute has been purely to accomplish what is best for the children.
Your article also ironically decries the supposed use of the children as "pawns" in the custody battle, yet the Press had no compunction whatsoever about using them as pawns to generate readership, by extensively recounting sensational details about this very difficult period in their lives, and even featuring the children's photograph. This is exploitation, not journalism, and it is unworthy of you and your readers. I am deeply disappointed.
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Sign of the Cross
Whenever I see a business ad with the little fish emblem, a cross or anything indicating that it is a "Christian" company, it is immediately crossed off my list to do business with ["Pain in the ASS," by Randall Patterson, June 1]. It usually indicates anything but Christianity. I have heard of too many bad experiences.