Dear Willie D:
I would rather [have] an Adonis over a caring, considerate and passionate man any day. That’s why I prefer married men. Married men know their place and don’t overstay their welcome. When you’re done sexing them, they go home. You don’t have to worry about them hanging around or trying to tell you how to live your life.
Single guys expect too much. I don’t want to be responsible for anybody but me. Why don’t more women feel this way?
No Responsibility:
Oh, I don’t know. Maybe because generally speaking, women don’t mind the tradeoff in mutual responsibility, and, collectively, they have an incredible amount of contempt for homewreckers.
One thing I will say is, you are wise to recognize who you are and live by your own values — however deplorable they may be. Not many will achieve that even if they live to be older than lies.
PEOPLE LOOK PAST ME, NOT AT ME
Dear Willie D:
I have never been the type of person people get excited about. I’m not the life of the party; I’m don’t even get invited to the party. It hurts that people look past me, not at me. I feel small and insignificant. Is there a reason for optimism? What does everyone else think?
Reason for Optimism:
It could be that you’re living life too cautiously, and overthinking your approach to relationships. Maybe if you put yourself out there more without coming off as pretentious, people will naturally gravitate toward you.
I’ve had my fair share of hardships. Perhaps more than controlling my emotions, and keeping clean karma, I’ve learned as long as you’re breathing, there’s always room for optimism.
IF YOU DON’T LIKE MY COUNTRY, LEAVE!
Dear Willie D:
You talk a lot of shit on your Facebook videos about cops and race. I will meet you anywhere, anytime, and we’ll see what’s what. Just say when and I’m there. This is America, the greatest country on Earth. If you don’t like how things are run here, leave. Who the fuck do you think you are?
Internet Gangsta:
I’m a player from the Himalayas who would love to make your acquaintance, and accommodate any desires you have to put me in my place. Just make sure you kiss those ugly-ass kids and tell them you love them before you leave home, because you might not make it back, punk!
I CAN’T AFFORD TO GO TO MY BEST FRIEND’S WEDDING
Dear Willie D:
To keep this as short as possible, my best friend is pretty much set financially, and I’m broke. She is having a destination wedding in Spain and wants me to come. She said she and her fiancé will pay for hotel accommodations, but guests will have to pay for their own travel.
I want to tell her I can’t afford to go, but I don’t want to be thought of as not being a good friend. What should I do?
Destination Wedding:
If she is truly your best friend, she will be understanding when you tell her that you can’t attend because you can’t afford it. If she really wants you to be there, she’ll pay for all expenses associated with the trip.
On a personal note, I would never go into debt over my own wedding, let alone someone else’s. The most important thing for a bride and groom happens after the wedding, not during it.
Ask Willie D anything at willied.com/ask-willie-d, and come back next Thursday for more of his best answers.
This article appears in Mar 23-29, 2017.
