Being in that young adult group which ranges from late twenties to early thirties... for someone like me movies like this summer's "The Lifeguard" which focuses on a young woman worried about growing up and being lost can be somewhat depressing, but at the same time true. I have to admit I have started to have my share of "am I on the right path thoughts" recently. But for anyone struggling with these similar lost feelings watching movies such as "The Lifeguard" where a 29-year-old NYC journalist played by Kristen Bell, who moves back to her hometown in Connecticut to then begin working her high school job as a lifeguard once again... only then to begin a dangerous relationship with a high school boy is sad and relatable. Noo...I have not had a relationship with a high schooler, but I do understand the want to go back in time and find what's missing. To try to rid yourself of that empty lonely feeling that sometimes comes with being a young adult and not knowing if your life is going the way its supposed to. So why do we have these types of indies? Is it simply to make us females feel better. Or is it because they are meant to help us confused young "kadults" who are 'trapped between being kids and aspiring adults' figure out what we are really supposed to be doing with our lives.
I read an article recently that talked about how social customs have shifted as a result of evolution and now there is no set timeline for our lives. With evolution of a culture comes much confusion. People are having babies later, getting married later and spending more time figuring out what they what to do with themselves. But this is both good and bad, especially for us females. Good because now we have more time for fun... but bad because we are now confused more than ever about what we are supposed to be doing with ourselves and if we are successful enough. And now it appears that the thirties are the new twenties. People look younger, act younger and wait longer to do things. When movies like Young Adult starring a 37 year old woman, played awesomely by Charlize Theron, walk around being ultra cool, wearing Hello Kitty and acting like a grad student, how are us young women to be expected to have it all figured out.
Of course, unlike Young Adult there are always tragic films like this year's "Girl Most Likely" starring Kristen Wiig, about a failed NY playwright who moves home after a failed marriage and career, that make being a thirties-something "kadult" just as depressing for a late thirties woman as "The Lifeguard" makes the life of a late twenties woman seem. Another example is the Femi-indie "Hello I Must Be Going" in which a 35-year-old divorcee played by Melanie Lynskey, is forced to move back home where she begins an affair with a 19 year old.
Which brings up another interesting point... Why is it that Hollywood always relate women going out with younger guys with being because we don't want to grow up? I myself have gone out with younger guys and never had a second thought about it... at least not until I see these annoyingly depressing Femi-movies. But seriously... I don't see them doing that with men. In fact in movies like "Silver Linings Playbook" the one where Bradley Cooper gets with a much too young for him Jennifer Lawrence, they try to make it cute and romantic.... So in a way you could kind of say that Hollywood was responsible for our confusion.
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Of course Hollywood has always been a little bit, stuck in that chauvinist 1950's mind-set. Well if things have evolved, and now more women are having acceptable relationships with younger men (ex. Ryan Gosling & Eva Mendes)... then Hollywood is going to have to grow up a little and evolve with the times. Only then will these oh so confusing Femi-indies cease to be made and for females like me, we can finally get things sorted out.