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WHY DO SO MANY FEMALES IDOLIZE MARILYN MONROE?
Dear Willie D:
Please help me understand this. There is documented evidence that Marilyn Monroe was a homewrecker and a loose woman, to put it mildly. So why do countless females look up to her, and are so fascinated by her persona?
Putting It Mildly:
I used to wonder the same thing; not anymore. Besides her beauty, women are drawn to her because there's a piece of Marilyn Monroe in every woman. It's the piece that each woman relates to that makes her endearing to them. Marilyn was strong and fragile; fearless and afraid; happy and sad; lucid and incoherent; praised and scorned; innocuous and scandalous; liberated and enslaved; glamorous and disheveled; privileged and poor; desired and rejected.
She was also much more intelligent than people gave her credit for. The collective energy of her flaws, redemptive attributes, beauty, talent, smartness and her willingness to share her vulnerabilities with all of us is why Marilyn Monroe is so adored. To say she lived in a town where people make a living out of being fake, she was as real as they come.
MY CONSISTENTLY INCONSISTENT HUSBAND
Dear Willie D:
I've been with my husband almost ten years -- married three. My issue is he is an alcoholic with severe trauma experienced during childhood. While I know he loves me, he is destroying our family. We have three great kids, and when he's not drunk or in jail he's a good dad. He doesn't have any dreams or goals.
He would be fine with all of us living in a park begging for change. I used to think I knew him -- not anymore. My question is; why do I keep going back? Our sex life is basically nonexistent because of his drinking. We don't have hobbies, and he's not even nice to me. Why am I not done?
Not Done:
He's not nice to you, but you're still with him? He's destroying your family, but you know he loves you? I'm confused. People stay in toxic relationships for a number of reasons: the kids, familiarity, loyalty, fear, money, they don't want to be lonely, and love -- whatever they know that to be.
If you're in a relationship with a man who mistreats you, have no hobbies, no ambitions, and can't get it up because he's always blasted; what's left to be attracted to? What attributes does he bring to the table in terms of parenting?
Look at it this way: if everything in your life outside of home was perfect, would you still want to be with him? I'm not going to tell you whether or not you should leave your husband. Your honest answer to the aforementioned question will tell you what to do.
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