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I'M JEALOUS OF MY FRIEND BECAUSE SHE'S PRETTIER THAN ME
Dear Willie D:
Hanging out with my close, beautiful friend has always made me feel less important, and sometimes unattractive. She's always the first one that guys see. Lately, I have found myself being really resentful of her to the point that I no longer want to hang out with her, and tell her about events that I might be attending because I'm tired of competing with her.
I feel like such a snake. She is a good friend, and has always had my back. I know I shouldn't feel the way I do, but I can't help it. How can I cope and coexist with a friend who is prettier than me?
Really Resentful:
As a rule of thumb a girl should never have a friend who is one point more attractive than she is. That's because the less pretty girl will eventually get tired of being overlooked by the hot guys and getting the sloppy seconds that the pretty girl turns down.
Everybody is unique in his or her own way, so be thankful for the things that make you desirable to guys. Honestly, if it bothers you that much, find yourself a new friend who is less attractive than you to hang out with. No one will blame you for it.
ROLLER COASTER
Dear Willie D:
I'm in an on-again, off-again relationship. We have been together for four years. You would think by now we would have worked out all the kinks. But it's like we enjoy the pain. We fight then make up, then fight again.
Yesterday I said to him, "You're the most important person in my life. I love you" and he just said, "Thanks." Today when he asked me what was bothering me, and I told him about his reaction to my statement on yesterday, he told me I was a drama queen. So now we're off-again. How do we fix this roller coaster?
On-Again, Off-Again:
I can't tell you if now is the time to end your relationship, but on-again, off-again relationships traditionally end up in the gutter. If you really want to salvage your relationship, sit down with your man, and have a heart-to-heart about how you feel without pointing fingers.
But be mindful that fixing the roller coaster will only involve more of the same: sudden and extreme changes.
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