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WORKING ON NOT BEING SELFISH
Dear Willie D:
I consider myself a good person, but I'm selfish and I don't know how to break the mold. I haven't spoken to my sister in over a year because I wouldn't allow her to use my car to travel back and forth to work. She wrecked her car and didn't have insurance for the repairs. She got mad at me because as she put it, I have two cars and one is just sitting there not being used.
She called our mother and put her in between it, and our mother took her side and called me selfish. Now my mother and I are on not speaking. Why should I have to let her put miles on my car, and what happens if my primary car breaks down while she's driving my other car? Even worse, what happens if she wrecks my car? I feel bad for being this way because she doesn't have transportation to work.
I know it's not my responsibility, but why do I feel so guilty? Do you think I should let her use my car?
You feel guilty because you care. Take into account how responsible your sister is. If she is relatively responsible maybe you could let her drive the least expensive car until an agreed-on get-out date; much in the same manner that someone might be given a move-out date.
Maybe you could have her pay the insurance, and a small note or the whole note if it's not paid off. On a personal note, if I were in your shoes I would say no. I have two sisters, and the only thing either of them has ever been qualified to drive is a man crazy.
HE WANTS ME TO SEND HIM NUDE PICTURES OF ME
Dear Willie D:
I'm sort of dating this guy who lives out of town. We met at a party in Denver a few weeks ago and have since talked on the phone almost every day for at least two hours each time. We have had phone sex and he has sent me a photo of himself nude and asked me to do the same, but I refused. I told him he would have to wait to see the real thing. But he keeps pressuring me to send him naked pictures.
I know guys are into that type of thing, but I don't want to put myself out there like that. What if he shares the picture with his friends, or gets mad at me and posts them on the Internet? I would be mortified. He keeps telling me that he won't share them. What do you think I should do?
Bad idea. By now every female should have gotten the memo about how nude photos shared on cell phones and over the Internet have ruined the reputations of countless young women. The only reason you should share nude pictures of yourself is if you don't care who sees them; that includes: his friends, your friends, your employer, your future employer, your future husband, your in-laws, your children, your children's friends, etc.
When a guy tells a girl he won't share naked pictures of her body, it's the new way of saying he won't tell anybody if she has sex with him. Of course he's going to tell. That's what guys do.
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