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HE HAS AMBITION BUT NO MONEY
Dear Willie D:
I have been talking on the phone with a man who as far as I can tell is a nice guy with impressive goals and drive, but he is broke. I'm 40 years old with a good career, a home, money in the bank, a new car and a hefty 401K. He's 37, works at a mall department store and drives an early-model Nissan. How am I supposed to make this work?
The tone of your letter leads me to believe that you should quit while you're ahead. You said the guy seems nice and has goals. But everything after that was about money and material things, which in his case is well below your standards. Even if you were to give the relationship a go, you appear to be the type of woman who would badger the guy for not being accomplished and be ashamed to bring him around your friends.[jump]
Everything about this letter tells me that you want to date up financially, and I think you should considering the type of partner you're interested in. Just keep in mind: Nice guys don't finish last; the women who overlook them do.
I WANT TO BECOME A POLICE OFFICER
Dear Willie D:
In recent years law enforcement has been under fire for having somewhat of a tyrannical mentality toward American citizens. Being aware of the public discourse against policemen, I think it's the perfect time for me to join the force and bring back honor to the badge. I can't do it alone, but change starts with one.
I want to fulfill my dream of becoming a policeman, but my mother is afraid that with so much hatred toward cops today, I could be murdered by someone out for revenge against cops. I have told her the chances of something like that happening are highly unlikely.
But she is still very much against it. The problem is my brother was killed on military duty in Iraq, so I'm her only remaining son. I don't want to disappoint her, but I'm 27, and it's time for me to pursue my dream. What do you think about my situation, and what would you do if the choice was yours?
It's noble of you to consider your mother's feelings as you consider your career path, but your mother doesn't own your dreams; you do. If the choice was mine, I would march in the direction of my goal of becoming a police officer.
Lately it seems that police officers are only here to serve and protect each other. I would feel a little safer knowing someone like you will be on the job.
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