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WHAT'S A CHEAP VALENTINE'S DAY GIFT FOR MY MAN?
Dear Willie D:
I wanted to get your opinion on what would be a cool gift to give a boyfriend for Valentine's Day if I'm on a budget?
The best Valentine's Day gift I've ever received that didn't cost a lot of money was when my girl prepared a candlelight dinner for me and we made love. Now a lot of ultra-sensitive dudes will say there's more ways to a man's heart than just food and sex. I agree, but if you want to impress your man on a budget for Valentine's Day or otherwise, feed him and f--- him. You can't miss.
MY BOYFRIEND SAYS HE WILL KILL HIMSELF IF I LEAVE HIM
Dear Willie D:
I've been with my possessive boyfriend on and off for 18 months. We're not together at the moment. He keeps telling me that he can't live without me, and that he will kill himself if I don't come back. About three months ago I came back to him after he threatened to kill himself because I didn't want his death on my conscience, but I was also thinking maybe we could work things out.
His mother is old and he's an only child. He told me after she dies he will inherit a lot of money, and he always talks about the things he will buy me when we get married. But I don't want his money. He calls and texts all the time asking me do I still love him? I tell him yes, but we need some time apart.
I know he's a nice guy who loves me, and he's trying hard to please me. I want to be with him but he is really possessive. Next week I'm traveling to visit my cousin in California for a month. I feel guilty being secretive about my plans. I just know he's going to flip out. Should I tell him now or wait until I get to California?
You should definitely wait until after you arrive in California to tell him. Your ex is controlling and emotionally unstable. That's not someone you want to be around or spend your life with. When people try to use the emotional blackmail through threats of suicide to manipulate someone into staying in a toxic relationship, it's just a ploy to control them.
I suggest you move on and wish him well. But first talk to his mother and bring her up to speed on his state of mind or call the cops to get him some professional help. Wait, don't call the cops. They might shoot him.
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DO YOU AGREE WITH THE LEGALIZATION OF WEED?
Dear Willie D:
What do you think about the use of legalized weed for recreational and medical use catching on in certain parts of the United States?
Puff Puff Pass:
It's a no brainer, especially for people suffering from chronic illnesses. The hypocrisy of politicians is mind-blowing. I know politicians who snort cocaine, yet they have a problem legalizing weed. I bet a lot of them know the words to this song by Devin the Dude:
What you gonna do when the people go home
And you wanna smoke weed but the reefer's all gone
And somebody had the nerve to take the herb up out the doobie ashtray
Why they do me that way
WHERE IS A WOMAN'S PLACE?
Dear Willie D:
I'm a 26-year-old female college graduate with a degree in business. I have been told by a number of people that because of my career ambitions the best that I could hope for in terms of a family was to be a single mother and a divorcee.
My mother was a college dropout and single mother who struggled to provide for me and my siblings most of the time. While I respect what she did for us I don't want to go through what she went through. That's why I finished college and got my degree.
More than anything I would love to someday be happily married with kids, but there is a lot of negativity aimed at career women who pursue romance. Do you think it's possible for a woman to have it all or is a woman's place in the kitchen?
A woman's place is wherever she wants it to be. Personally, I believe that women are harder workers than men. With that said, working women do seem to have a tougher time managing their relationships than housewives do. Ultimately, it boils down to what works for you and yours.
Times are hard. I know a few guys out there today who wouldn't mind a little financial help, and would appreciate their lady bringing home the bacon. Some of them will even cook it.
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