I’m Obsessed With Stalking My Man Online. Help!

I’m Obsessed With Stalking My Man Online. Help!
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Dear Willie D:

I created several fake accounts to follow my boyfriend’s activities on social media. I’ve even flirted with him, but so far he hasn’t taken the bait. My insecurities stem from being cheated on by a guy who I cheated on first. The idea of being cheated on frightens the crap out of me. I know I shouldn’t be snooping around spying on him, but I can’t help it.

So, how do I stop it if I can’t help myself?

Fright Stalker:

Most people can’t help themselves from eating a Sara's Brownie at Barnaby's, but if it’s not sitting on the table in front of them warm, dripping vanilla ice cream and staring them in the face, I’m sure they could get through the day without it.

If you want to keep your boyfriend, I suggest you stay away from social media. Because your boyfriend’s social media pages are your Sara’s Brownie — as long as they’re accessible to you, you won’t be able to resist them.

DOES SHE THINK I'M UGLY?

Dear Willie D:

I was on the phone talking to a girl I’ve been out with a few times, and she said when it comes to looks, on a scale of 1-10, I’m a five. Is she trying to say I’m ugly?

Scaling Looks:

Well, on a scale of 1-10, technically five is average. So, that’s not necessarily ugly. It’s possible she could’ve been joking. In any event, your confidence in your looks is not determined by your girlfriend, it’s determined by you.

MY MAN IS ALLERGIC TO MY CAT, AND WANTS ME TO CHOOSE

Dear Willie D:

In fairness to my boyfriend, when I first met him, he told me he didn’t like cats because he is allergic to them. I was like, well, this isn’t going to work. So I didn’t speak to him again for months. Then we reconnected, and hit it off big time. Because of the cat situation, we did everything at his house.

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Well, now things have gotten a lot more serious, and we’ve taken our relationship to the next level. We decided it would be best for him to move in with me because his place is small, and I have an extra bedroom for whenever we have guests stay overnight.

But he wants me to get rid of my cat. This is something I’m unwilling to do. What’s a good compromise? He has to move out by the first of March.

Cat Got You Strung:

I suggest you consider finding a person who shares your opinion on cats.

HOW DO I OVERCOME LAZINESS?

Dear Willie D:

It never fails. I think of something I have to do, then when it comes time to do it, I can’t will myself to do it. Between raising my son, his school activities, friends and work, there just isn’t enough time in the day.

When it comes to work, I wait till the absolute last minute to complete a task. This lazy mentality, of course, is negatively impacting my life. How do I change?

Overcoming Laziness:

Are you sure you’re lazy, and not simply overwhelmed? Try scaling back some of your son’s activities that aren’t necessary, and don’t add new things to your to-do list until you finish the old things on your list. Take breaks, vacation whenever you can and learn to say no. These things are essential to being productive.

Exercise, regular colon and liver cleansing, and eating healthy works wonders for increasing energy. There are also a number of natural supplements out there that may increase your energy. Search Google for the different available products, and read the reviews before you buy.

Having said all that, I have to keep my body in motion, because once I'm on the sofa, good luck with anything else that needs to be done.

Ask Willie D anything at willied.com/ask-willie-d, and come back next Thursday for more of his best answers.


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