Ask Willie D 2/4/2016

MY BABY MAMA IS A PROSTITUTE

Dear Willie D:

My baby mama is a prostitute who blames me for her problems. I’m trying to get a job but can’t bring in the money she does, so she knocks me all the time. Because she leaves me with the kids, I don’t get a chance to get out and make money. I’m never going to win, right?

Knocked Around:

Is she knocking you because she earns more money than you, or is she knocking you because you’re not showing enough effort to get a job and help out financially? It’s not fair, but the stigma about men who live off women is still very real, even if you are cooking, cleaning the house and providing child care.

I can understand a man going through a rough patch, but he has to get back on track in a reasonable amount of time or his woman will lose respect for him. You need to find somebody else to watch those kids, and get out there and find a job so that you can make a financial contribution to your household.

You still got a shot at getting the “W,” but you’re in the fourth quarter with the clock winding down, and the other team has the ball.

HOW DO I DEAL WITH FRIENDS ALWAYS CALLING ME CHEAP?

Dear Willie D:

I feel as though I’m doing well financially; however, I know I don’t make as much money as a few of my friends. When I decline to do things or I object to a certain price for things such as trips, my friends are quick to call me cheap or a tightass.

My friends also don’t have the financial responsibilities that I do; i.e., a mortgage and student-loan debt. So my question is, how do I politely make them aware that we are in two different situations without being rude?

Financial Responsibilities:

In any relationship, you have the right to say no and feel secure in knowing that the people who claim to care about you will respect your decision. When you can’t afford the cost of fun with your friends, tell them straight up that you can’t afford it. If they judge you or call you names, they’re not worthy of being called friends. Henceforth, they don’t deserve your politeness.

Refusing to spend money that you don’t have is not called being cheap. It’s called living within your means.

SHOULD I APOLOGIZE TO THE PERSON I BULLIED?

Dear Willie D:

A few days ago, I came across the Facebook profile of an old schoolmate that I used to bully back in middle school. I had always wondered what happened to her. I see that she is divorced with three children now.

I want to inbox her and apologize, but hesitate to do so out of fear that it may open up old wounds. This is something that has weighed heavily on my heart for years. Should I apologize or let sleeping dogs lie?

Old Wounds:

I was faced with a similar dilemma whereas I bullied a girl when I was in the first grade. I was really mean to her for no reason, and it ate at me for years. I had always wondered whatever became of her. Then, about two years ago, I finally got the opportunity to reconnect and apologize to her. She graciously accepted my apology, and a heavy load was lifted from my conscience.

But most important, I think it brought her closure. Yes, wake up that sleeping dog. It’s been way too long.

WHAT DO YOU THINK ABOUT THE OBAMA ADMINISTRATION RELEASING HILLARY CLINTON’S EMAILS?

Dear Willie D:

What do you think about the Obama administration’s decision to release Hillary Clinton’s emails containing classified national security-compromising information?

Classified Info:

I think with the Freedom of Information Act, and America’s appetite to be privy to all things information, our national security is compromised on a daily basis anyway. In any event, if you look at the history of presidential campaigns, scandals have very little effect on the outcome of elections.

That said, if the email scandal does hurt Hillary, Bernie Sanders will benefit more than anyone. So get ready to feel the Bern!

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