Ask Willie D 7/14/2016

MY MAN MASTURBATES ALL THE TIME

Dear Willie D:

I think my man has a mental disorder. He masturbates all the time. I don’t know where he gets the energy. We have sex at least five times a week. He is a hotshot driver. Today he called me at home while he was in transit dropping off a load, and asked me to masturbate with him.

I said no because I was cramping, but started faking like I was masturbating because he kept pressing me. He took his penis out and beat it in rush-hour traffic. Who does that?

Faking It:

Although you were faking it, I have to give you props for playing along, considering the fact that you were cramping. Your boyfriend is an oversexed maniac, but I don’t think he has a mental disorder. After all, he was smart enough to get a job doing what he likes — dropping loads.

I NEED HELP LIFTING MY SPIRITS

Dear Willie D:

I was recently laid off from my job and my girlfriend and I just broke up, so I’m kind of down. At the moment I live with some friends, and I’m just feeling really down. I try not to give any energy to my predicament, but it’s hard. Do you have any ideas that might help me to lift my spirits?

Really Down:

Well, if you can’t get your job and your girl back, try engaging in a hobby or doing something that makes you happy. If all else fails, have a drink, or two, or three.

SHOULD I PAY A TALENT MANAGER TO REPRESENT ME?

Dear Willie D:

I’m a 20-year-old female pursuing a career in acting. While I was online checking my Instagram, I clicked on the profile of a guy who had liked my pictures and said he would like to work with me. He asked me to DM (direct message) him. I looked at his profile that had several pictures of actors he claimed to have worked with.

Although none of the actors were A-list, he looked legit so I contacted him, and we talked for about 20 minutes. He told me he would like to represent me, but that it would cost $200 a month. When I asked why he is charging me, he said it was for administration fees associated with booking me and keeping my online profile on his website updated.

Is this guy legit?

Talent Fee:

No, he isn’t. A credible manager would never request upfront money from talent for representation. That is a huge red flag! Managers get paid a percentage of your future salary that falls within your contractual term.

I TRY TO AVOID MY FAMILY

Dear Willie D:

I sometimes do things for family that stretch me to my limits emotionally and financially. But whenever I need something, no one is there to offer any assistance. I want to write them off, but I’m conflicted. What should I do?

Conflicted:

You teach people how to treat you. Your family members can’t get away with taking you for granted if you don’t allow them to. Take an inventory of your family, and tighten your circle up with the ones who appreciate you.

As for the ones who don’t, if you feel an urge to deal with them, do so from a distance, but don’t do any favors for them and expect a return on your generosity.

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